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You'll Always Have Time

If you're Canadian, at the end of reading this blog title you probably heard yourself sing "for tim hourtons."

God you have to love advertising. Isn't it amazing the things we do with words and the things words do to us?

Anyway, this blog is not about donuts and coffee.

It's actually about the stories we tell ourselves in our mind about time. If you're human, and I'd be stoked to know if a non-human was really reading this, and if you're that non-human please definitely drop me a line and tell me about your extraterrestrial planet...but if you're human, you've likely run some version of this thought in your head: I don't have enough time.

Yep, you know the one. And you've repeated it in your head like a damned mantra. You've sent it out as your silent prayer asking life to reflect back to you all the ways in which "you never have enough time." I wish Will Ferrell was in this blog so he could read everything that's italicized in a sarcastic voice. Oh and he's wearing antlers while he's doing that.

I ran and killed a similar story in my head the other day while washing my face in the morning.  I killed it dead because of just how ludicrous it was to catch myself run this pattern. I love debunking the nonsense in my own head - hacking my brain is my favorite pass time.

This particular one about time is a thought we cycle in many different contexts - a meme that's flooded the collective psyche like a virus we catch and re-catch. And the really fascinating thing? We could just as easily say to ourselves: I have so much time  and by doing so create the perception and experience that we have all the time in the world to live the quality of life we desire.

Time is totally perceptual - it's not quantifiable in the way we create it to be through our language. When the only place is Here and the only time is Now (really go ahead and try to get out of this moment without using your mind), there's really no such thing as too little or too much time, not enough of or plenty of time. Go ahead and try to give yourself very little time right now in this moment - just for this moment right here give yourself too little time. Now stop that and try and give yourself too much time - just for this moment right here and right now give yourself way way way too much time. Did you do it?

If you slow your mind down and bring yourself into the moment where you notice that all motion is made up in the very mind that tells you there's too much or too little of time, you'll notice that time is always perceptual. All the things you say you have to do or don't have enough time for is a list your mind makes up and then creates a story around. It's only your run-on thoughts that create the illusion that you have or don't have a certain "amount" of time. The question is, can you do the thing you want to do right here and right now? The things you want to do, all of them, can only ever be done in the Now. So why make up a worrisome story about not having any imaginary time for them and stress your nervous system? Hmmmm?

Peculiar, says I.

Whatever perceptual filter we impose on this experience of a rather malleable temporal completely our own doing. Always.

Do you want to have the feeling and so experience of having all the time in the world? Go on and gift that perception to yourself. You deserve it.

Hack your brain on your own terms. Stop inheriting the memes of your culture when those memes in no way contribute to you loving and reveling in your reality. 

Long live the little green men.


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