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What's fascinating to me is watching a powerless story perpetuate itself as an exact replica of someone else's powerless story. It's amazing how quick the mind is to relinquish its own creative ownership in favor of being the victim to one's own life. If it feels like you are the victim to someone else's actions, it is because right now in this moment, that is how you are creating yourself in your own mind.

For as long as you don't question the validity of the very story you are allowing to take shape inside of you and putting out into the world, let alone picking up and adapting from someone else, for as long as you don't ask yourself "is that how I want to create myself" in what you continually make up as a situation that happened to you rather than through you, you will not find and connect to the threading of grace that is hidden in whatever unfolded.You will not have grown in that dimension of being. You will not have seen the power you had and how that power manifested itself in that situation. All of that will be invisible to you because of where you hold yourself in your own mind.

You are a creative participant in every moment of your life. You are an active player on the screen of your waking experience. You cannot recognize this creative power within you while making up that the ending or the outcome was all "their" doing, "their" actions, and "their" unevolved ways in the world. What role did you play? What came through you into this co-creative situation?

Your life has never been about them. Your life has never been about the him or the her that is right now the central star of your own mental studio. It's always been about you. It's always been about your contribution, your part, your role, and ultimately your growth and evolution. How is this situation a divine invitation? An invitation of love, grace, growth, and light? That is what you want to look at. Because every situation is there to bring more light into the dark corners of your own being. Not his, hers, theirs. Your own.

Nothing has ever happened to you. Remember this. Everything is happening through you. Everything is flowing through you and into the world. You are a creative opening that life has put in place, and so things are not coming to you from the world, things are coming into the world through you. With each and every breath. Asking "why did I create this through my being" will get you further than "how did this happen to me" or "how did he do this to me" or whatever other version of dis-empowerment you are expressing.

It is when you own your every moment, when you take ownership of and responsibility for your every experience, that you will truly tap into the immense creative power within your core. Love yourself enough to own every detail, for in that ownership you allow yourself to truly access the immense power inside yourself.


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