More and more that is who and what I surround myself with. It makes no sense to align with relationships and connections that make you less than you are, that pull you into being and behaving in ways that are no longer a reflection of who you know yourself to be. The amazing thing about this playground is you get to decide every step of the way. Every step of the way you get to sift through the endless possibilities to choose and bring into being the options that best reflect who we want to be in the world, in our world and in the connections we have within it.
I once wrote in another post that the greatest thing I can do for a man in my life is call him toward his own soul. Call him toward his own greatness. Call him toward his own highest self. And really THAT is the greatest thing we can do for anyone and with anyone - hold the space for others to make the choices that reveal to them the greatness of their own being. Be the question in their lives that asks them in a loving and nurturing way: who do you want to be in the world, in your world?
Every action, every choice calls us into a version of ourselves. Every call and every invitation to be from others does the same - it calls us into a version of ourselves. I feel it - I feel that true support, true togetherness on any level, true love, is the one that says: "be the you that you really know yourself to be. Be that greatness. Be all of your Self. Be that remarkableness. And I'll be here holding space for it."
If we are shrinking away from those connections that challenge us to stretch who we are, to expand into who we are capable of being, that call us into more-ness, it is only because we fear the brightness of our own light. If we are keeping ourselves in connections that obviously don't hold the space we need to be our highest version of ourselves, it is only because we fear the brightness of our own light. It is either fear or love that is driving our every choice. You fear yourself enough to not be all of your Self. Or you love yourself enough to be all of your Self. Either way, it's a choice - and you'll know the choice you're making just by looking around.
We are who we choose to be!